Tips for Great Sex After Birth of A Baby

During pregnancy you may have wondered what the effects of the pregnancy on your body and mind, not to mention a new little one would have on your sex life postpartum. The good news is that many women find that they have better sex lives, just different, after the birth of a baby. Just remember it will be different. Here are some tips to enhancing your postpartum sex life!

Don't rush into anything. Take your time. Having sex before you are ready (your mind or your body) is harmful to your relationship.

Shower together! Or bathe together. Not only will it save time and money for water but you might have a lot of fun.

Plan for birth control. Don't be someone who is caught two months after the birth of your baby wondering if you got pregnant because you took a chance.

Try to plan some time alone, even if it's just to cuddle. Having a baby may leave you feeling "touched out," but some special snuggle time with your main guy can help revive that, even before sexual intercourse is allowed or wanted.

Get to know each other a bit better. Remember you're both having to adjust your life to being parents, even if it's not your first child.

Be spontaneous! Bedtime might not always be the right time. Nor will the bedroom always be the right place. Add some spice to your sex life, act like a teenager!

Lubrication! Make sure you and your partner take enough time to get into the mood and that you're feeling moist enough to handle it. If you think you need some more help than what mother nature is providing, be sure to use an over the counter lubricant rather than worry needlessly. If you're still concerned talk to your practitioner.

Remember it's quality not quantity. You don't have to have sex every night, not even every week. Figure out what timing is right for your relationship.

Talk about your fears of sexual intercourse. Maybe you're worried about the repair of an episiotomy or some stitches that you had. Perhaps you're concerned about how your partner feels after watching you give birth.

Never hesitate to say no. Maybe you need the freedom to say no once in awhile. Your partner might also need the same freedom. There are also compromises that can be made along the way. Maybe intercourse is out but some good old-fashioned kissing and necking isn't?

Source: http://pregnancy.about.com

Tips for Sex After Pregnancy

• Talk to each other about how you feel
  
  
• Be gentle with each other and build up to things gradually
  
  
• Avoid penetration and concentrate on caressing or oral sex the first few times
  
  
• Spend more time on kissing, caressing and foreplay to aid arousal
  
  
• Until your hormone levels are back to normal your vagina won't naturally lubricate itself very well, so try using a lubricant
  
  
• If you have had an episiotomy or stitches, let your partner know if you experience tightness or pain.
  
  
• A warm bath, massage and lubricant may help
  
  
• Try different positions if you feel discomfort

Lack Sex Drive After The Birth

While your sex life during pregnancy may continue normally, sex after the birth is probably going to be the last thing on your mind!

A number of things contribute to a decline in sex drive after the birth of your baby. Labour is a physically exhausting and highly emotional process, so it's only natural that your body will need some time to recover! In addition, your hormone levels change significantly after birth, and of course you will also need time to adjust to your new baby.

Why won't I feel like having sex?

It's only natural to overlook sex for days or more likely weeks, after you have your baby. Some doctors used to suggest waiting until after your 6-week postnatal check-up, but this is probably over cautious. You should, however, wait until the lochia (bleeding and discharge) has subsided. This can take between 2 and 6 weeks, perhaps longer for some people. You should also wait until healing has occurred if you had a caesarean, stitches or forceps delivery.

Some of the reasons you may not feel like, or enjoy sex include:

• tiredness and feelings of general discomfort
• pain or tightness due to an episiotomy or stitches - this can sometimes take months to subside
• less natural lubrication for up to 8-10 weeks after the birth, particularly if breastfeeding. You can purchase a lubricating jelly from your pharmacy if necessary.
• feeling unattractive because of physical changes after childbirth - exercise will help!
• anxiety about your new baby and the new world of motherhood
• distractions, such as a crying or unsettled baby
• loss of libido for your partner. This is not uncommon and should not be taken personally - remember your partner is going through adjustments too. Talk to each other to ensure that these problems don't become drawn out
• fear of getting pregnant - conception can still occur while you're breastfeeding! Don't forget to talk to your health care practitioner about reliable contraceptive methods at your 6-week postnatal checkup.

When should we start having sex again?

There are no hard and fast rules about when desire will return or when to resume your sex life - it varies for different people. While the general opinion is that sex can resume as soon as you feel physically and emotionally ready, it's probably best to seek the advice of your doctor or obstetrician before you leave hospital.

Remember it's not just you that might not feel like making love! You need to talk to your partner about when each of you is ready to resume sex. It's also a good idea to address any other problems you may be experiencing together.

Resuming sex has its advantages. The hormones released during sex cause contractions that will help the uterus to return to it's normal state, and of course, returning to a physical relationship can be good to renew the physical and emotional closeness between you and your partner.

What about contraception?

After you have given birth, ovulation could occur at any time, even when you are breastfeeding. You and your partner will need to think about contraception and discuss the options with your doctor.

Contraceptive pills that contain oestrogen are not recommended for breastfeeding women as they reduce milk production. Progestogen-only pills are available but their long-term side effects on babies are unknown at this stage. Until your six-week check-up, the only other alternative is condoms, used with a contraceptive gel or cream. At your six-week check-up you can discuss the use of a diaphragm or IUD with your doctor.

Source: www.essentialbaby.com.au

The Ways to Lift Your Libido

1. Make him a cup of tea. Damiana tea contains a South American herb that will stimulate his nether regions. Dr. Sarah Brewer, alternative health expert and author of Increase Your Sex Drive in 12 Weeks (Thorsons/Element, 1999), explains, "The active ingredient is gonzalitosin, which induces a feeling of mild euphoria and a tingling sensation in the penis. It also helps alleviate depression, which can often cause a dip in sex drive." Quick, put the kettle on!

2. Feast on figs. A favorite aphrodisiac with the ancient Greeks and Egyptians, figs are said to build up sexual stamina due to their high amino acid content.

3. Ditch cleansing wipes. "I bet when you first got together with your man you made love with your make-up on." says Val Sampson, author of How to Have Great Sex for The Rest of Your Life (Piatkus, 2006).

"After a while this gets replaced with taking all your makeup off, brushing your hair and slipping into your nightgrown. Try to initiate sex when you're still dolled up. It will rekindle those exciting first-time feelings." And the more gorgeous you feel, the more confident and relaxed you'll be.

4. Draw the curtains. And have sex in the afternoon. "That's when your sex hormones are at their highest," says Val. "Pop the kids in front of a video, or better still, pack them off to your parents' or a friend's house for the afternoon, and get down to it."

5. Bake some buns. According to scientists, the most arousing smell for men is cinnamon buns. In a study at The Smell & Taste Research Foundation in Chicago, scientists tested more than 200 smells to find out which ones aroused men the most -- and cinnamon won. "We discovered that smelling cinnamon increased the flow of blood to the penis, helping him stay aroused," says study leader Dr. Alan Hirsch.

6. Switch ends. "Have sex at the opposite end of the bed," says Tracey Cox, TV sex expert and author of Quickies (Dorling Kindersley, 2006). "It's the lazy woman's guide to pepping up her sex life. It feels a bit different, a bit more exciting, but you haven't got to fork out on a hotel. Just move your pillows down to the other end of the bed."

7. Make it quick. "Don't beat yourself up if your sex life just consists of 1 1/2-minute quickies before the kids wake up," says Tracey. "Sex doesn't always have to last for 45 minutes and end with two orgasms. If that's what you aim for, you'll never find time so you'll go without altogether. "Just a two-minute fumble a week, with intercourse or not, will keep libidos fired up better than one long session every two months."

8. Get some garlic. It contains allicin, an active ingredient that increases blood flow to both your sexual organs, resulting in a stronger erection and better orgasms. Buy a bulb a week, crush it up, and throw it into your meatballs and stir-fries.

9. Go out. A University of California study discovered that an hour in the sunshine can rev up a man's libido boosting testosterone levels by up to 69 percent.

10. Avoid sex. "Make a pact on a Thursday not to have sex until the end of the weekend," says sex and relationship psychologist Susan Quilliam. "Not being able to have something makes us want it more. In the meantime, do lots of kissing and cuddling to get in the mood. By Sunday, you'll be dying to rip each other's clothes off."

11. Turn the TV off. Couples who have a TV in their bedroom make love half as often as those who keep it a TV-free zone, says a new study. Susan Quilliam says: "Unless you're watching a saucy film, a TV in the bedroom will distract you both, disrupt your sleep, and make you less likely to want sex."

12. Ditch the pics. "As sweet as they may be, keeping pictures of your children next to your bedside table won't do your love life any favors," says sex therapist Dr. Lori Boul. "Keep the area around your bed for just the two of you, and leave the pictures of your kids and mother-in-law for the living room."

13. Hold hands. "Touch each other all the time to release bonding hormones," says Dr. Lori. "The touching doesn't have to be sexual -- simply hold hands, snuggle on the sofa, or stroke his shoulders as you walk past him ..."

14. Have a coffee. Whoever came up with the pickup line, "Can I buy you a coffee?" was onto something. Turns out that a mug of something hot really will get you going. Scientists from Southwestern University, Texas, have discovered that coffee boosts the female libido. You have to be an occasional drinker to feel the benefits so, for best results, ditch your six-cups-a-day habit.

15. Give good text. "Text your partner three times a day," says sex counselor Ruth Hallam-Jones. "Be flirty and tell them exactly what it is you like about them. It'll boost their day -- and libido."

16. Rent a movie. No, not that sort of movie -- a scary one! "Sit next to each other and watch a frightening film together," says Relate counsellor Christine Northam. "It'll raise your man's testosterone levels, and he'll want to protect you, plus clinging on to each other during the hair-raising moments will bring you physically closer."

17. Buy trainers. Thirty minutes a day of moderate exercise can help to increase sex drive, say researchers. It's not just the extra energy that will help get you in the mood; if you feel more confident about your body, you'll also feel sexier.

18. Eat chocolate. Ditch white or milk chocolate in favor of a rich, dark bar with at least 70 percent cocoa solids. Cocoa contains phenylalanine, an amino acid that boosts arousal and enhances your mood.

Lovers' Boost in a Bottle
Stick these on your shopping list to spice up your sex life:

19. St. John's Wort. We all know that this herb is famous for lifting a low mood, but did you know it can also do wonders for a flagging libido? Studies have shown it helped 60 percent of people with mild depression to get back their interest in sex.

20. Korean gingseng. This has been used as a libido lifter for more than 7,000 years. As well as improving blood flow to the genitals, it also stimulates your mental and physical energy, so it's good for people with stress-related low libidos.

21. Ginkgo biloba. Boosts blood flow enough to help maintain an erection. A Journal of Sex Education and Therapy study involving impotent men showed that taking ginkgo had a beneficial effect after six weeks, and within six months, half of the participants got their erections back.

22. Vibrance cream. A brand new cream can boost a woman's flagging libido within minutes. During trials, 50 percent of women felt a response within five minutes and the effects lasted between 30 and 45 minutes.

23. Zestra Feminine Arousal Fluid. In a small study, this oil was found to increase desire and arousal in women when applied during foreplay.

Source: Daily Mirror

10 Great Locations For First-Date

10. Horse Stable

If you're both physically fit and like animals, make arrangements to go horseback riding at a beautiful location. If you can trot on a beach, even better. You'll have plenty to talk about after your ride.

9. Planetarium

Can you think of a better way to get to know someone than gazing at the stars together? Check out your local planetarium for programs, and take your date for a day of "exploration of the cosmos."

8. Wine Tasting

Impress your date with a tasting at a local winery -- or find a restaurant that schedules wine tastings. Depending on how well you get along, you might suggest dinner after the tasting. Make sure your date isn't a teetotaler, first!

7. Botanical Garden

A botanical garden is the perfect environment to cultivate a beautiful relationship. It's the perfect place to take someone you don't know that well, with great potential to spark conversation and romance.

6. Sunset Cruise

If you live near water, treat someone special to a short river, ocean or bay cruise. Water soothes the spirit, makes conversation easy, and provides a beautiful backdrop to rev up romance.

5. Picnic at A Park

Sharing food is always a great way to spend a date -- especially when you have the extra-added pleasure of a beautiful park surrounding you. Prepare a picnic basket and spread out a blanket on a soft spot in the grass.

4. A ‘Buena Vista’

Where do you go to unwind? Do you have a favorite overlook, seaside retreat or mountaintop vista? A great way to measure compatibility is to take someone to see your favorite "beautiful view." Drive there and see what happens.

3. Comedy Club

Laughter is sexy. It's also a great way to break the ice between two people getting to know each other. Take your date to see a comedian and laugh the night away! (Caution: For first dates, stick with a nonoffensive act.)

2. Drive-in Movie

The great thing about a drive-in movie is that you have free reign of the vehicle -- meaning you can laugh, eat popcorn and discuss the movie freely. See a comedy together. Laughter helps create sparks.

1. Home

If you love your home, invite your date over for coffee or cocktails. Show him or her around your home. Keep photo albums or conversation pieces on hand. Take a stroll in your neighborhood. It's a great place to share yourself.

Source: http://www.thirdage.com/

How to Handling and Storage Seafood??

Finfish and shellfish should be handled with care. Both are highly perishable. Storage life depends on how well you take care of it, whether the seafood is a whole fish or a live oyster. Fish bruises easily, so handle carefully. Lift whole fish with two hands and avoid holding by the tail. Pack all seafood products separately or at the top of your grocery bags.

When your seafood purchase arrives home, store it in the coldest part of your refrigerator at a temperature as close to 32 F as possible. Or fish in waxed paper or place in a covered dish and refrigerate. Wrap seafood in plastic wrap or store in an air-tight container. As a general rule, fresh seafood should not be held more than a day or two before being cooked. From a safety point of view, the maximum temperature for perishable food is 4°C. Based on quality and shelf life, it is recommended that seafood be stored between -1 to 2°C.

Disease-producing bacteria thrive at warm temperatures and can live very well on seafood. In the danger zone - between 4°C and 60°C - bacteria can double in numbers every 15 to 30 minutes

The shelf life depends upon the variety of fish and the quality at time of purchase. Be sure to use fish quickly, within one to two days after you buy it. Fish that is not prepackaged should be washed under cold, running water and patted dry with an absorbent paper towel. The fish should then be wrapped in moisture-proof paper or plastic wrap, placed in a heavy plastic bag, or stored in an air-tight, rigid container until ready for cooking. Even though frozen storage for fish can vary from 3 to 10 months, depending on the oil content of the fish, all frozen seafood should be used within a month or two to ensure the best flavour.

Smoked fish is packaged in many ways – frozen, refrigeration with a limited shelf life, and as a stable shelf product. Consumers are encouraged to follow the storage directions on the packaging and to refrigerate any unused product for a short period of time (maximum two days). Signs of quality deterioration and spoilage of smoked fish include discolouration, mold, and an unpleasant odour. Discard the product immediately if there are any signs of spoilage.

Some varieties of shellfish, however, require different handling and storage guidelines.

• Store shrimp, squid, and shucked shellfish in a leak-proof bag, plastic container, or covered jar.
  

• Store live shellfish in a shallow dish covered with damp towels or paper towels. Never put live shellfish in water or in an air-tight container where they could suffocate and die.
  

• Squid and freshly shucked clams have a shelf life of one to two days.
  

• Shrimp and scallops have a shelf life of about two to three days. Before storing uncooked shrimp, rinse them well under cold running water and drain thoroughly. Refrigerate, tightly covered, for up to 2 days.Cooked shrimp can also be refrigerated for up to 2 days. · Freshly shucked oysters have a shelf life of five to seven days.
  

• Store live clams in the refrigerator in an open container covered with a moist cloth for up to 2 days. Shucked clams may be stored in their liquor (the liquid surrounding them) in the refrigerator for up to 3 days and in the freezer for up to 3 months.
  

• Store live mussels in a single layer on a tray covered with a damp cloth for up to 2 days. Shucked mussels may be stored in their liquor in the refrigerator for up to 3 days, or frozen for up to 3 months.
  

• Oysters in the shell, from seven to ten days. Some shells may open during storage. If so, tap them. They will close if alive; if not, discard immediately.
  

• Refrigerate live crabs, covered by a damp towel, until just before cooking. Live lobsters and crabs should be cooked the same day they are purchased. Cooked whole lobsters or crabs should be stored in tight air-tight containers and used within two to three days. Cooked, picked lobster or crab meat should be stored in a sealed moisture-proof plastic bag or air-tight plastic container for three to four days. Canned crabmeat may be stored, once opened, in the refrigerator for up to 2 days. Pasteurized crab meat can be refrigerated for up to six months before opening and should be used within two to three days after opening.
  

• Refrigerate left-over cooked shellfish dishes as you would any other leftovers. Use within two or three days. Do not allow cooked seafood to come in direct contact with raw seafood or other raw meats.

Tips for Buying Fresh Fish and Friends

The best way to guarantee you are buying fresh fish is looking at, smelling and (if possible) feeling what is on offer. Whatever the variety, whole fish have certain characteristics that indicate freshness.

Buying whole fish, look for:

• Moist, and even slippery
• Shiny skin, with scales that adhere tightly. Characteristic colors and markings start to fade as soon as a fish leaves the water.
• Bright red or pink gills. Avoid fish with dull-colored gills that are gray, brown, or green. Fresh fish should be free from slime.
• Firm flesh, which bounces back when touched. Fresh fish will give slightly, then spring back into shape when gently pressed.
• Crystal clear eyes - not sunken into the surrounding skin. Bright, clear, full eyes that are often protruding. As the fish loses freshness, the eyes become cloudy, pink, and sunken.
• A fresh smell. Fresh fish shouldn't smell fishy. It should have a fresh, ocean smell.

Buying fillets or steaks, look for:

• Firm and elastic flesh and a fresh-cut, moist appearance, with no browning around the edges.
• Clear white or red color, depending on the variety of fish. Fresh fillets have a bright, shiny colour without browning. Filleted flesh separates if it is left too long in the case. The flesh should be translucent, light will shine through it. There should be little evidence of bruising or reddening of the flesh from retention of blood.
• Even coloring
• Moist appearance
• A fresh smell. All fresh fish should have no fishy or ammonia smell.. It should have a fresh, ocean smell.
• Prepackaged steaks and fillets should contain a minimum of liquid.

Buying shellfish, look for:

• Shellfish may be sold live, cooked, or fresh shucked.
• The form depends on availability and the shellfish itself. Each form and species will have different quality signs to examine.
• Odor is one quality indicator that should be sweet and mild, not overly fishy for all fresh shellfish. This odor has been likened to a fresh sea breeze or seaweed.

The shells of live clams, oysters, or mussels should be tightly closed. Look for:

• Fresh mussels, oysters, clams are sold live because when they die, their internal organs start to deteriorate. This way fresh shellfish should have unbroken shells and should be closed. If the shells gape slightly, tap them: the shells should close up. If they do not close up, throw them away.
• The shells of fresh, live shellfish should be shiny and moist. It should smell sweet and mild, like a fresh sea breeze.
• Fresh lobster and crabs are also sold alive, because they spoil quickly when they die. Thus when selecting them they should show leg movement (they will not be very active if they have been refrigerated, but they should move at least a little bit).
• Raw shrimp meat should be firm and should smell mild. The shells should not have blackened edges, black spots or other dark areas, because this indicates loss of freshness.
• When buying fresh squid, select those with clear and full eyes, the skin should be cream-colored with reddish brown spots (when they start losing freshness the skin turns pinkish) and the meat should be very firm.
• Fresh shucked oysters should have a fresh smell. A clear slightly milky or light grey liquid should surround freshly shucked oysters.

And last but not least, when shopping buy your fresh fish or seafood last and then take them home straight away to storage them appropriately.

Shopping for Fresh Fish and Friends At The Right Market

Everyone knows freshness is essential to good eating. From lettuce to chicken to bread, the freshness of our food is directly linked to its quality. With fish, freshness is even more important. So, its very important to know how to buy fresh fish.

There are health benefits to eating fish and seafood on a regular basis, whether it is wild or farmed. Studies show that people who eat seafood at least once per week significantly lower their risk of heart disease and stroke.

Fish are fragile creatures, and their quality begins to deteriorate within minutes of being hauled from the water. That's why being able to choose the freshest fish in the market is tantamount to choosing the best.

Seafoods, like many other foods, are perishable and must be handled properly to avoid spoilage and the possibility of food poisoning.

How do I know I am going to the right place?

Choosing fresh fish can be tricky, since most of the fish we buy is already cut up into fillets and steaks. While this makes cooking fish a snap, it also means that we need to pay attention before we buy. Here are some guidelines for helping you choose the freshest catch in the market.

Choosing where to purchase your fish is every bit as important as choosing which fish to buy.

Whether you shop at a specialty seafood shop or in the neighborhood supermarket, make sure that it's a place with a high turnover.

Sometimes a gourmet seafood store, even if they have dozens of varieties for sale, isn't as good a choice as the corner market, simply because fewer people may shop there.

If you shop at a place with a lot of traffic, you are guaranteed a high turnover, which almost always guarantees fresh fish. On the other hand, just because your supermarket does a bustling business in every other department doesn't mean they sell a lot of fish.

A good way to tell is simply to watch the seafood counter while you shop. Is it crowded? Are other shoppers looking carefully over the refrigerator case, being choosy about what they take home to their families? Crowds, especially discriminating ones, can be a good sign.

Presentation is key.

Are the fish beautifully (or at least neatly) displayed and surrounded by ice?

The little plastic signs which list the price per pound should be stuck into the ice (or a lemon half if the store is fancy) next to the fish, not into the fish itself. The counter and surrounding areas should be sparkling clean, without pools of murky liquid collecting. Pools of murky liquid are also bad signs when collecting underneath the fish.

Is your fish store a good one?

Watch the counter people in action. How are they handling your dinner?

Are they carelessly flopping the fish into the wrapping, holding the steaks or fillets by a thin edge (which can tear the flesh), or dangling your snapper by the tail? Fish are not as hardy as chickens, and need easy handling (although you probably wouldn't want your butcher lifting your chicken by its drumstick, either).

Odor is also a telltale indicator.

When you walk into a fish store or approach the fish counter if you're in a supermarket, are you greeted with the crisp clean scent of salt and ice?

This is what you should smell. If the air is at all rank, vaguely foul, or even somewhat less than fresh, something could be amiss. If this is the case where you buy your fish, think about changing venues.

Checking out the Merchandise

Once you've chosen your market of choice, choosing which fish is the freshest should be as easy as asking the fishmonger. Spending a little time talking with him or her will help you make an informed choice.

Find out the fish's history. Where and when did the fishmonger buy the fish? Was it caught locally or shipped in from elsewhere? Has the fish been frozen? (Previously frozen fish cannot be refrozen.) Obviously the longer the fish has been out of the water, the less likely it will be fresh.

Seasonal Summer Shopping at the Farmers' Market

Summer produce delivers a sensual experience beyond that of any other season, combining the sun’s energy with vibrant memories in every mouthful of juicy watermelon or sweet corn, and in the heady aromas of garden-fresh tomatoes and perfectly ripened peaches. Piled high at farmers’ markets, organic fruits and vegetables beckon with brilliant colors—let them tempt you. Local, organic produce is the freshest, best-tasting, and most nutritious you can find, short of growing it yourself.

This summer, visit your market often for fruits and vegetables at their peak, and try recipes that highlight their flavors. Keep dishes simple, with a minimum of ingredients, and use fresh herbs by the handful. You’ll spend less time in the kitchen, yet the resulting meals will be sensational.

Corn—Best if picked that morning and cooked within a day. Look at the stem: if pale green, it was just picked, otherwise the stem would be more woody. Find ears with bright green, tightly closed husks. If you’re permitted to check inside, pull husks back to check whether the kernels are plump and burst when popped with a fingernail. Some people find white corn to be sweeter than yellow corn. Refrigerate, in the husk, in a plastic bag, for no more than 2 days. Boiling corn: Bring a large pot of water to a boil. Don’t add salt, as it will toughen the kernels. Shuck the corn, place it in the boiling water, and let cook for 3 to 5 minutes. Turn off heat and leave corn in the hot water for another 2 minutes. Remove and serve with butter and salt and pepper. Roasting corn: Pull down husks, remove silk, replace husks (secure with kitchen string if necessary) and hold under cold water to dampen. Grill on a rack, turning for even cooking, for 20 minutes; alternatively, place in hot coals for 15 minutes.

Watermelons and Other Melons—Look for melons that are firm but not too hard, with no soft spots. The stem end should give slightly when pressed and have a fresh melon scent. Store melons in a cool place; once cut, or if your kitchen is hot, store in the refrigerator, pressing plastic wrap to the cut side. Some people prefer cold melon—especially watermelon—so refrigerate or ice several hours before serving. Cut lengthwise, remove seeds and pulp, then cut into wedges or chunks, or scoop into melon balls. Melons are wonderful as part of breakfast, in a summer fruit salad, or wrapped in prosciutto as an appetizer. At the farmers’ market, ask for tastes of different varieties to find a new favorite.

Zucchini and Other Summer Squashes—Seek out small firm squashes (under six inches), with bright, glossy skins. Be careful to avoid nicks, which hasten decay. Store in the vegetable bin of the refrigerator in a perforated plastic bag, up to a week. For a simple pasta dish, slice the ends off either one or several kinds of squash, cut into 1/4-inch slices and sauté in fruity olive oil for several minutes or until soft. Season with salt and pepper and toss into cooked pasta (use fresh pasta to reduce cooking time and keep your kitchen cooler) with freshly grated parmesan cheese. If you like, add one or more of the following to the sauté pan: minced garlic, chopped onion, diced tomato, chopped oregano, and parsley.

Peaches—Find golden yellow and red fruits that have a bit of give and no green on the skin. Allow to ripen at room temperature (refrigeration will deaden their flavor). If you are buying to eat right away, ask the farmer’s advice on which are the ripest. Peaches are excellent sliced over breakfast cereal or made into crisps, sorbets, and preserves. To peel: Loosen the skin by gently running the blunt side of a blade over it, turn the knife around, and use the sharp side to lift the skin away. To pit: Cut in half lengthwise, twist the halves, and separate; remove the pit. Fresh peach slices are fabulous over vanilla ice cream. For an even more-luscious topping: Skin, pit, and slice peaches, and toss in a bowl with fresh blueberries, dots of butter, and brown sugar to taste. Broil the mixture (or place in a tinfoil packet on the rack of an outdoor grill) until the sugar and butter melt. Spoon over the ice cream.

Tomatoes—Look for yielding (not too hard, not too soft), vibrantly colored tomatoes that have a strong, earthy tomato aroma. The farmers’ market is a great place to find heirloom slicing and cherry varieties in unusual colors and shapes. Store at room temperature, as refrigeration will ruin both the flavor and texture of tomatoes. If starting to become overripe, they can be chopped up for a sauce or soup. For bruschetta: Chop tomatoes. In a nonreactive bowl, combine them with chopped basil or oregano, minced garlic, and salt and pepper to taste. Lightly toast slices of rustic Italian bread in the oven or on an outdoor grill. Brush one side of the toasts with a fruity olive oil, then, using a slotted spoon, top with the tomato mixture.

Blackberries and Blackberry Hybrids—Blackberries, boysenberries, loganberries, and olallieberries all provide fiber, vitamin C, and sweet-tart bursts of summer flavor. Find plump berries with no bruising or mold. To store: Pick out overripe berries and spread on paper towels on a plate or cake pan (do not rinse until ready to use). If not using that day, cover with a paper towel and refrigerate. Rinse gently with cool water and drain on more paper towels. Eat berries as a snack, as a topping for ice cream, or cheesecake, or in a crisp. They are also an excellent candidate for freezer jam, which is much less labor intensive to produce than regular preserves. (Look for recipes on boxes of pectin.) Refrigerate some to eat right away and freeze the rest for a welcome summer taste in the middle of winter.

source: organic.org

How Much Seafood Do I Need to Buy?

You can never have enough seafood in your life. The amount you'll want per person depends on the recipe, the fish itself, and your appetite. Here is a more precise estimate, per main course serving.

Small whole fish	3/4 to 1 pound per person
Fillets or steak	1/3 pound or 5 to 8 ounces per person
Scallops, peeled shrimp, or crab meat	1/4 pound or 5 to 7 ounces, shelled per person
Shell-on shrimp	1/2 pound per person
Live crab or lobster	1/2 pound per person
Oysters or clams, shucked	1/4 pint per person
Oysters or clams, in the shell	1/2 to 1 dozen per person
Squid and octopus	6 to 8 ounces per person
Lobster	1 1/2 pounds in the shell per person
Clams and mussels	3/4 pound per person

Birth Control -- Intrauterine Devices and Spermicides

Intrauterine Devices and Spermicides

An IUD is a mechanical device inserted into the uterus by a health-care professional. Two types of IUDs are available in the United States: the Paragard CopperT 380A and the Progestasert Progesterone T. The Paragard IUD can remain in place for 10 years, while the Progestasert IUD must be replaced every year.

It's not entirely clear how IUDs prevent pregnancy. They seem to prevent sperm and eggs from meeting by either immobilizing the sperm on their way to the fallopian tubes or changing the uterine lining so the fertilized egg cannot implant in it.

IUDs have one of the lowest failure rates of any contraceptive method. "In the population for which the IUD is appropriate--for those in a mutually monogamous, stable relationship who aren't at a high risk of infection--the IUD is a very safe and very effective method of contraception," says Lisa Rarick, M.D., former director of FDA's division of reproductive and urologic drug products.

The IUD's image suffered when the Dalkon Shield IUD was taken off the market in 1975. This IUD was associated with a high incidence of pelvic infections and infertility, and some deaths. Today, serious complications from IUDs are rare. Side effects can include pelvic inflammatory disease (an infection of a woman's reproductive organs), ectopic pregnancy (in which a fertilized egg implants in the fallopian tube instead of the uterus), perforation of the uterus, heavier-than-normal bleeding, and cramps. Complications occur most often during and immediately after insertion.

Vaginal Spermicides Alone

Vaginal spermicides are available in foam, cream, jelly, film, suppository, or tablet forms. All types contain a sperm-killing chemical.

Studies have not produced definitive data on how well spermicides alone prevent pregnancy, but according to the authors of Contraceptive Technology, a leading resource for contraceptive information, the failure rate for typical users may be 26 percent per year.

Package instructions must be carefully followed because some spermicide products require the couple to wait 10 minutes or more after inserting the spermicide before having sex. One dose of spermicide is usually effective for one hour. For repeated intercourse, additional spermicide must be applied. And after intercourse, the spermicide has to remain in place for at least six to eight hours to ensure that all sperm are killed. The woman should not douche or rinse the vagina during this time.

Source: http://www.fda.gov/

Birth Control -- Surgical Sterilization

Surgical sterilization is a contraceptive option intended for people who don't want children in the future. It is considered permanent because reversal requires major surgery that is often unsuccessful.

Female sterilization
Female sterilization blocks the fallopian tubes so the egg can't travel to the uterus. Sterilization is done by various surgical techniques, usually under general anesthesia.

Complications from these operations are rare and can include infection, ectopic pregnancy, hemorrhage, and problems related to the use of general anesthesia.

Male sterilization
This procedure, called a vasectomy, involves sealing, tying or cutting a man's vas deferens, which otherwise would carry the sperm from the testicle to the penis.

Vasectomy involves a quick operation, usually under 30 minutes, with possible minor postsurgical complications, such as bleeding or infection.

Research continues on effective contraceptives that minimize side effects. One important research focus, according to FDA's Rarick, is the development of birth control methods that are both spermicidal and microbicidal to prevent not only pregnancy but also transmission of HIV and other STDs.

Source: http://www.fda.gov/

Birth Control -- Traditional Methods

Fertility awarenes or ovulation method
Also known as natural family planning or periodic abstinence, fertility awareness entails not having sexual intercourse or using a barrier method of birth control on the days of a woman's menstrual cycle when she is more likely to become pregnant.

Because a sperm may live in the female's reproductive tract for up to seven days and the egg may remain fertile for about 24 hours, a woman could get pregnant from intercourse that occurred from seven dkays before ovulation to 24 hours or more after. Methods to approximate when a woman is fertile are usually based on the menstrual cycle, changes in cervical mucus, or changes in body temperature.

Natural family planning can work, but it takes an extremely motivated couple to use the method effectively.

Withdrawal
In this method, also called coitus interruptus, the man withdraws his penis from the vagina before ejaculation. Fertilization is prevented if the sperm don't enter the vagina.

Effectiveness depends on the male's ability to withdraw before ejaculation. Also, withdrawal doesn't provide protection from STDs, including HIV. Infectious diseases can be transmitted by direct contact with surface lesions and by pre-ejaculatory fluid.

source: http://www.fda.gov/

Birth Control -- Hormonal Methods

Combined oral contraceptives

Typically called "the pill," combined oral contraceptives have been on the market for 40 years and are the most popular form of reversible birth control in the United States. This form of birth control suppresses ovulation (the monthly release of an egg from the ovaries) by the combined actions of the hormones estrogen and progestin.

If a woman remembers to take the pill every day at the same time of day as directed, she has an extremely low chance of becoming pregnant. But the pill's effectiveness may be reduced if the woman is taking some medications, such as certain antibiotics.

Besides preventing pregnancy, the pill offers additional benefits. As stated in the labeling, the pill can make periods more regular and lighter. It also has a protective effect against pelvic inflammatory disease, an infection of the fallopian tubes or uterus that is a major cause of infertility in women, and against ovarian and endometrial cancers.

The decision whether to take the pill should be made in consultation with a health professional. Birth control pills are safe for most women--safer even than delivering a baby--but they carry some risks.

Current low-dose pills have fewer risks associated with them than earlier versions. But women over age 35 who smoke and women with certain medical conditions, such as a history of blood clots or breast or endometrial cancer, may be advised against taking the pill. The pill may contribute to cardiovascular disease, including high blood pressure, blood clots, and blockage of the arteries.

One of the biggest questions has been whether the pill increases the risk of breast cancer in past and current pill users. An international study published in the September 1996 journal Contraception concluded that women's risk of breast cancer 10 years after going off birth control pills was no higher than that of women who had never used the pill. During pill use and for the first 10 years after stopping the pill, women's risk of breast cancer was only slightly higher in pill users than non-pill users Women who have or have had breast cancer should not use the pill because the estrogen in the pill may worse their medical condition.

Side effects of the pill, which often subside after a few months' use, include nausea, headache, breast tenderness, weight gain, irregular bleeding, and depression.

Minipills
Although taken daily like combined oral contraceptives, minipills contain only the hormone progestin and no estrogen. They work by reducing and thickening cervical mucus to prevent sperm from reaching the egg. They also keep the uterine lining from thickening, which prevents a fertilized egg from implanting in the uterus. These pills are slightly less effective than combined oral contraceptives.

Minipills, like combined oral contraceptives, can decrease menstrual bleeding and cramps and lower the risk of endometrial and ovarian cancer and pelvic inflammatory disease. Because they contain no estrogen, minipills don't present the risk of blood clots associated with estrogen in combined pills. They are a good option for new mothers who are breast-feeding, because combined oral contraceptives may decrease the quantity and quality of breast milk. They are also a good option for those who get severe headaches or high blood pressure from estrogen-containing products.

Side effects of minipills include menstrual cycle changes, weight gain, and breast tenderness.

Emergency contraceptive pill (Morning After Pill)
Two emergency contraceptive pill for use in preventing pregnancy after intercourse when standard contraceptives have failed or when no contraceptives were used at all. One product contains the hormones progestin and estrogen; the other contains just progestin.

Available by prescription only, both products are believed to work by delaying or inhibiting ovulation, or by keeping a fertilized egg from implanting in the uterine wall. These pills are not effective once the fertilized egg has implanted.

Emergency contraceptives are about 75 percent effective, which means the number of women who would be expected to become pregnant after unprotected sex drops from eight without the "morning after pill" to two when it is used.

Side effects include nausea and vomiting, both of which were reported less frequently in women taking the progestin-only pills.

Injectable progestins
Depo-Provera, is injected by a health professional into the buttocks or arm muscle every three months. Depo-Provera prevents pregnancy in three ways: It inhibits ovulation, changes the cervical mucus to help prevent sperm from reaching the egg, and changes the uterine lining to prevent the fertilized egg from implanting in the uterus. The progestin injection is extremely effective in preventing pregnancy, in large part because it requires little effort for the woman to comply: She simply has to get an injection by a doctor once every three months.

The benefits are similar to those of the minipill and another progestin-only contraceptive, Norplant. Side effects are also similar and can include irregular or missed periods (which is not harmful and does not mean that the method isn't working), weight gain, and breast tenderness.

Implantable progestins
Norplant and the newer Norplant 2, are the third type of progestin-only contraceptive. Made up of matchstick-sized rubber rods, this contraceptive is surgically implanted under the skin of the upper arm, where it steadily releases the contraceptive steroid levonorgestrel.

The six-rod Norplant provides protection for up to five years (or until it is removed), while the two-rod Norplant 2 protects for up to three years. Norplant failures are rare, but are higher with increased body weight.

Some women may experience inflammation or infection at the site of the implant. Other side effects include menstrual cycle changes, weight gain, and breast tenderness.

source: http://www.fda.gov/

Birth Control -- Barrier Methods

Birth Control -- Barrier Methods

Barrier methods include the diaphragm, the cervical cap and condoms. These methods prevent pregnancy by blocking sperm from getting into the uterus. Barrier methods must be used every time you have sex.

Male condom

The male condom is a sheath placed over the erect penis before penetration, preventing pregnancy by blocking the passage of sperm.

A condom can be used only once. Some have a chemical added to kill sperm The addition of this spermicide, usually nonoxynol-9 in the United States, has not been scientifically shown to provide additional contraceptive protection over the condom alone. Because it acts as a mechanical barrier, a condom prevents direct contact with semen, infectious genital secretions, and genital lesions and discharges.

Most condoms are made from latex rubber, while a small percentage are made from lamb intestines (sometimes called "lambskin" condoms). Condoms made from a type of plastic called polyurethane have been marketed in the United States since 1994.

Except for abstinence, latex condoms are the most effective method for reducing the risk of infection from the viruses that cause AIDS, other HIV-related illnesses, and other STDs. For people who are sensitive to latex, polyurethane condoms are a good alternative.

Some condoms are prelubricated. These lubricants do not increase birth control or STD protection. Non-oil-based lubricants, such as water or K-Y jelly, can be used with latex or lambskin condoms, but oil-based lubricants, such as petroleum jelly (Vaseline), lotions, or massage or baby oil, should not be used because they can weaken the condom and cause it to break.

Female Condom
The Reality Female Condom, approved by FDA in April 1993, consists of a lubricated polyurethane sheath shaped similarly to the male condom. The closed end, which has a flexible ring, is inserted into the vagina, while the open end remains outside, partially covering the labia.

The female condom, like the male condom, is available without a prescription and is intended for one-time use. It should not be used together with a male condom because they may slip out of place.

Diaphragm
Available by prescription only and sized by a health professional to achieve a proper fit, the diaphragm is a dome-shaped rubber disk with a flexible rim that works in two ways to prevent pregnancy. It covers the cervix so sperm can't reach the uterus, while a spermicide cream or jelly applied to the diaphragm before insertion kills sperm.

The diaphragm protects for six hours after it is inserted. For intercourse after the six-hour period, or for repeated intercourse within this period, fresh spermicide should be placed in the vagina with the diaphragm still in place. The diaphragm should be left in place for at least six hours after the last intercourse but not for longer than a total of 24 hours because of the risk of toxic shock syndrome (TSS), a rare but potentially fatal infection. Signs and symptoms of TSS include sudden fever, stomach upset, sunburn-like rash, and a drop in blood pressure.

Cervical cap.

The cervical cap is a soft rubber cup with a round rim, sized by a health professional to fit snugly around the cervix. It is available by prescription only and, like the diaphragm, is used with spermicide cream or jelly.

It protects for 48 hours and for multiple acts of intercourse within this time. Wearing it for more than 48 hours is not recommended because of the risk, though low, of TSS. Also, with prolonged use of two or more days, the cap may cause an unpleasant vaginal odor or discharge in some women.

Sponge.

The sponge, a disk-shaped polyurethane device containing the spermicide nonoxynol-9, is not currently marketed but may be sold again in the future. Inserted into the vagina to cover the cervix, the sponge is attached to a woven polyester loop for easier removal.

The sponge protects for up to 24 hours and for multiple acts of intercourse within this time. It should be left in place for at least six hours after intercourse but should be removed no more than 30 hours after insertion because of the risk, though low, of TSS.

Source: http://www.fda.gov/

Deciding to Have Sex??

If you are thinking about having sex for the first time or you already are sexually active, you probably want to know about preventing an unplanned pregnancy. This handout discusses birth control methods most commonly used by teenagers. Although most methods depend on the girl to do or take something, it is important for guys to understand what is involved so that they can support their girlfriends. Also, don't forget that it is only the condom that can prevent sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

No method of birth control is 100% effective. Unless you decide to practice abstinence and not have sexual intercourse, you are always taking some risk of pregnancy. However, if you are correctly using one of the birth control methods described, the risk can be quite small.

Many sexual activities are almost always safe without having to take any special precautions. These include holding hands, hugging, touching, and kissing. Still, some teens decide to also have sexual intercourse. Having sex can be a very loving and special experience between two people. However, you should think about several important issues before you decide to have sex. Not only might sex give you a sexually transmitted disease or cause pregnancy, but you also can get hurt emotionally because of the strong feelings involved.

Decide ahead of time what is right for you. Find an adult with whom you can discuss your feelings and opinions, and ask questions. Although it is sometimes awkward to start the conversation, you can discuss these things with your parents. Other adults from whom you might be able to get valuable information or insights include pastors or rabbis at your church or synagogue, school counselors, teachers, or adult relatives. Also your doctor's office can help you. You can usually discuss issues with these adults confidentially.

Call your health care provider's office if:

• Your period is more than a week late.
• You have questions about sex.
• You know the condom broke, or you didn't use one, and no other method of birth control is being used.
• You think you might need emergency contraception (the "morning-after" pill).

Birth Control Methods -- How Well They Work to Prevent Pregnancy?

Some birth control methods work better than others. The chart below compares how well different birth control methods work.

The most effective way to prevent pregnancy is not to have sex. (That's called abstinence.) However, within the first year of committing to abstinence, almost a quarter of couples become pregnant because they have sex anyway but don't use protection. So it's a good idea even for people who don't plan to have sex to be informed about birth control.

Couples that do have sex need to use birth control properly and every time to prevent pregnancy. For example, the chart below shows that the birth control pill can be effective in preventing pregnancy. But if a girl forgets to take her birth control pills, then this is not an effective method for her. Condoms can be an effective way to prevent pregnancy, too. But if a guy forgets to use a condom or doesn't use it correctly, then it's not an effective way for him to prevent pregnancy.

For every 100 couples using each type of birth control, the chart shows how many of these couples will get pregnant within a year. The information shown is for all couples, not just teenage couples. Some birth control methods may be less effective for teen users. For example, teenage girls who follow the rhythm method may have a greater chance of getting pregnant than grown women because their bodies have not yet settled into a regular menstrual cycle.

We have ranked the effectiveness of different birth control methods based on their typical use rates. Typical use refers to how the average person uses that method of birth control (compared to "perfect" use, which means no mistakes are made in using that method). For a birth control method to be ranked completely effective, no couples will become pregnant while using this method. Very effective means that between 0 and 1 out of 100 couples become pregnant while using this method. Effective means that 2 to 12 out of 100 couples become pregnant while using this method. Moderately effective means that 13 to 20 out of 100 couples become pregnant while using this method. Less effective means that 21 to 40 out of 100 couples become pregnant while using this method. And not effective means that no method of birth control is used.

Method of Birth Control	How Many Couples Using This Method Will Get Pregnant in a Year?	How Well Does This Method Work in Preventing Pregnancy?	Does This Also Protect Against STDs?
Consistent Abstinence	None	Completely effective	Yes
Birth Control Patch ("The Patch")	8 out of 100	Effective	No
Birth Control Pill ("The Pill")	5 to 8 out of 100	Effective	No
Birth Control Ring ("The Ring")	8 out of 100	Effective	No
Female Condom	21 out of 100	Less effective	Yes
Male Condom	15 out of 100	Moderately effective	Yes
Birth Control Shot	3 out of 100	Effective	No
Diaphragm	16 out of 100	Moderately effective	No
Emergency Contraception	1 to 2 out of 100	Very effective	No
IUD	Fewer than 1 out of 100	Very effective	No
Rhythm Method	25 out of 100	Less effective	No
Spermicide	29 out of 100	Less effective	No
Withdrawal ("Pulling Out")	27 out of 100	Less effective	No
Not Using Any Birth Control	85 out of 100	Not effective	No

Choosing a birth control method based on how well it works is important, but so are other things. Other important things to keep in mind include how easy a particular birth control method is to use or how much it costs. Sometimes, a person's health condition or whether that person is taking other medication could affect what type of birth control method should be used or avoided.

In addition to preventing pregnancy, some birth control methods provide some protection against sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Most kinds of birth control methods, though, do not provide much protection against STDs. Abstinence and condoms are the most effective in preventing STDs.

source: http://www.kidshealth.org/

Myths About Getting Pregnant

Several years ago, a few doctors at Harvard Medical School took a pretty strange take on the Pepsi® challenge. They tested different kinds of cola, in this case Coca-Cola®, and discovered that Classic Coke® and its lo-cal cousin have mild spermicidal properties. The study was inspired by an old urban legend that douching with Coca-Cola after having unprotected sex can prevent pregnancy. It doesn't. The spermicidal effect it has is too mild for that! Separating fact from fiction can be tricky, so here are a few of the more prevalent myths about pregnancy and the truth behind these tales.

I can't get pregnant if I douche after sex.

Douching after sex - whether it's with Coca-Cola, Pepsi, water, vinegar, or any other substance - will not prevent pregnancy (nor will urinating). Douching can cause yeast infections, so it's probably not the best idea anyway. There's just no reason to use Coca-Cola anywhere near the vagina; not only is it messy and sticky, but also it might irritate your skin and cause an allergic reaction. And forcing those tiny little air bubbles into the body can be dangerous. Sperm are excellent travelers and can reach the cervix faster than you can say "not-so-fresh-feeling," so douching is pointless when it comes to preventing pregnancy. (Jumping up and down after sex or switching positions doesn't help either.)

The only 100 percent effective way to prevent pregnancy is to abstain from vaginal intercourse. If you do decide to have vaginal sex, use birth control - and use something that has been proven to be safe and effective.

The only effective way to prevent pregnancy after unprotected intercourse is to take emergency contraception (EC). EC pills can prevent pregnancy - if taken within 72 hours of unprotected vaginal intercourse. EC is sometimes known as "morning-after" contraception.

I can't get pregnant the first time I have sex.

Sorry - there are no freebies when it comes to preventing pregnancy. The chance of getting pregnant the first time is the same as it is the 50th time. Some people believe that an intact hymen - the thin skin that stretches across part of the opening of the vagina (which, by the way, isn't detectable in all virgins because it can be stretched by non-sexual physical activity, such as playing sports) - will keep out sperm and prevent a woman from getting pregnant. However, the hymen doesn't cover the cervix, and it's usually stretched during intercourse anyway if it hasn't been stretched open before. Either way, having intercourse for the first time doesn't protect against pregnancy.

I can't get pregnant if I don't have an orgasm.

The pleasure a woman has during sex has little to do with her chances of getting pregnant. When a woman is sexually excited, certain changes in the body happen. For instance, when sexual arousal is over a woman's cervix dips down into the pool of semen that has been ejaculated into the vagina. This happens whether or not a woman has had an orgasm.

I can't get pregnant if he pulls out.

Not true. Pulling out, also known as withdrawal, means that a man pulls his penis out of the vagina before he "comes" to keep sperm from joining egg. It is only 81 percent-96 percent effective in preventing pregnancy. Pregnancy can happen even if the guy pulls out, if he doesn't ejaculate, or doesn't put his penis all the way in. Here's why: when a guy gets aroused, he produces a fluid called pre-ejaculate ("pre-cum"), which can contain sperm - particularly if he's had sex or masturbated earlier in the last couple of days. When the fluid leaks from the penis before a guy comes, it can cause pregnancy.

Pulling out is not a very reliable method for young people because some guys lack the experience and self-control to pull out in time, or they say they will pull out, and then they get so excited and carried away that they don't. Also, some guys can't tell when they are going to ejaculate.

I can't get pregnant while I have my period.

It's possible to become pregnant from vaginal intercourse at any time in the menstrual cycle. It's true that with a lot of learning and months of very careful recordkeeping and planning some women can figure out when they're most fertile, which can help if they're trying to get pregnant. But if a woman's trying to avoid pregnancy, there may be safer times for unprotected sex, but there is no guaranteed safe time. Most women's cycles (especially teenagers') are irregular, and some women ovulate - the time when an egg is released and a woman is most fertile - very close to the time that they have their periods. Plus, sperm can live in a woman's body for up to seven days waiting for ovulation to happen. So just because a woman isn't ovulating when she has her period doesn't mean she can't get pregnant.

The only 100 percent effective way of preventing pregnancy is to abstain from vaginal intercourse. But using condoms, the Pill, or another tried-and-true method of birth control can also help to prevent pregnancy. Remember, only latex and female condoms prevent transmission of sexually transmitted infections.

So instead of playing Russian roulette with guessing when you might be fertile, messing around with pulling out, or treating your vagina to ineffective and unhealthy douches, think about preventing pregnancy with birth control that has been proven to be safe and effective before you decide to have sex.

Source: www.teenwire.com

How to Plan a Long-Distance Wedding

As if organizing a wedding weren't stressful enough, now you're trying to do it from afar. Fret not, it's doable - it's just a little trickier.

Instructions

STEP 1: Choose a location and date as soon as possible. This will make all of the other planning easier.

STEP 2: Check with the city regarding marriage requirements. Residency requirements and waiting periods can put a screeching halt to your plans if you don't know about them soon enough.

STEP 3: Plan your visits to the site of the wedding carefully. Hit as many places on your to-do list as possible whenever you're in town.

STEP 4: Leave yourself plenty of time to travel and plan. You'll need to check some things out in person (caterer, reception location, salon where you'll have your hair done).

STEP 5: Think about hiring a local wedding consultant who can take care of the details for you. She'll be much more familiar with what services and people are available and can help keep your stress level under control.

STEP 6: Delegate if you can't afford a consultant. If people ask whether they can help, put them to work. Have each bridesmaid cover a different project: caterer, DJ, florist, etc.

STEP 7: Arrange your attendants' attire though a large retail chain, if possible. Then you won't have to mail shoes and dresses.

STEP 8: Reserve a block of rooms at a hotel for your out-of-town guests. Make sure the hotel has an inexpensive or complimentary shuttle service.

Tips & Warnings

Consider holding two small receptions - one in your wedding city and one at home. That will save your guests from having to travel so far and will save you from having to transport all the gifts.

Leave room in your budget for travel and long-distance phone charges.

source: http://www.ehow.com/

Honeymoon -- Plan Using a Timeline

As with any major project, a timeline can help you to plan your honeymoon getaway Planning, organizing and scheduling a honeymoon will be easier and less stressful if you break it down into manageable parts and allow time to plan for your post-wedding vacation.

While it's certainly possible to accomplish everything below in less time — some couples can pull off a last-minute honeymoon in a week — following this timeline will minimize problems and disappointment on a more well-planned honeymoon. So, let’s countdown.

6 MONTHS IN ADVANCE OF YOUR HONEYMOON...

Set a Budget

• Plan your vacation travel budget
• See what other couples plan to spend on their honeymoon
• Find all to make the perfect honeymoon and learn everything in every honeymooner needs to know
• Determine if a honeymoon bridal registry is right for you

5 MONTHS IN ADVANCE OF YOUR HONEYMOON...

Determine Your Destination

• Discover the honeymoon vacation spots
• Understand the advantages of different types of lodging
• Explore romantic honeymoon destinations
• Consider an all-inclusive resort
• Check out classic honeymoon destinations
• Hedge your bets and pick a place with good weather

4 MONTHS IN ADVANCE OF YOUR HONEYMOON...

Make Reservations

• Learn ways to save money on honeymoon travel
• Work with a travel agent - online or offline

3 MONTHS IN ADVANCE OF YOUR HONEYMOON...

Attend to Details

• Obtain passports and, if necessary, visas
• Get any vaccinations you may need

2 MONTHS IN ADVANCE OF YOUR HONEYMOON...

Get Organized

• Select luggage
• Plan what items you cannot pack
• Find out your airline's carry-on luggage limits
• Purchase travel guidebooks
• Plan your honeymoon wardrobe (don't forget the lingerie)
• Arrange care for your pets

1 MONTH IN ADVANCE OF YOUR HONEYMOON...

Finalize Honeymoon Plans

• Obtain your marriage license
• Confirm reservations
• Draw up a packing list
• Don't forget birth control
• Consider a small wedding-night gift
• Choose a travel camera, buy film for non-digital models, brush up on photography skills
• Prepare to traveling

ONE WEEK IN ADVANCE OF YOUR HONEYMOON...

Get Ready to Go

• Pack
• Secure tickets
• Decide how much cash and traveler's checks to take
• Learn how and where to exchange currency and find an ATM in your destination
• Make photocopies of passports, airline tickets, travelers' checks numbers, and credit cards. Store one copy in a place separate from your wallet and leave another at home with a reliable person
• Arrange for the post office to hold your mail (or for a friend to pick it up) while you're away
• Suspend newspaper subscriptions

FINALLY, YOUR HONEYMOON!

Time to Go Away Together

• Deal with last-minute changes if necessary
• Check out Sex FAQ
• Above all, relax on your wedding night.

Congratulations! Your honeymoon is just the start of exploring the world together.

source: http://honeymoons.about.com/