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Friday, November 7, 2008

The Film Stars Who Died Before The Release of Their Final Films

Bernie Mac
The comedian Bernie Mac still stars in two movies opening this weekend. He died at the age of 50 of pneumonia this past August. He not only plays opposite Samuel L. Jackson in the endearingly foul-mouthed tale of two washed-up singers in "Soul Men." But he also lends his voice to DreamWorks' animated movie "Madagascar: Escape 2 Africa."

Heath Ledger - The Dark Knight
The Australian actor died while shooting Terry Gilliam's "The Imaginarium of Doctor Parnassus," but a trio of other stars -- Johnny Depp, Jude Law, and Colin Farrell -- stepped in to film the character's remaining scenes. Though he died of an accidental drug overdose this past January, a full seven months before "The Dark Knight" opened, Heath Ledger's performance as The Joker in Christopher Nolan's grim superhero blockbuster has already garnered Oscar talk.

James Dean - Giant
Dean was a mere 24 years old when he died in a car wreck in 1955. But in that short time, he starred in three movies and garnered two posthumous Oscar nominations, one for "East of Eden" and the other for "Giant."

Oliver Reed - Gladiator
Legendary British actor Oliver Reed died of a heart attack during production of this epic sword and sandal flick. As a result, a number of his scenes had to be re-edited using a double, digital effects, and plenty of shadows.

Bruce Lee - Enter the Dragon
Legend of martial genre film, Bruce Lee died just three weeks before his breakout movie opened, killed suddenly by a cerebral edema. "Enter the Dragon" proved to be such a hit -- one of the most profitable movies of all time -- and there was such a demand for its departed star that Hong Kong soon started cranking out films with leads named Bruce Li, Bruce Lei, Brute Lee, and Lee Bruce.

Brandon Lee - The Crow
Bruce Lee's son Brandon was killed in a freak on-set accident during filming of 1994's "The Crow.", in a coincidence so ghoulish people speculated there may have been some sort of "curse" involved. An improperly-cleaned prop gun discharged a blank that pierced Lee's abdomen and lodged in his spine. After the tragic mishap, production resumed using stunt doubles and digital trickery for the remaining scenes.

Spencer Tracy - Guess Who's Coming to Dinner
Spencer Tracy starred alongside Katharine Hepburn and Sydney Poiter in the 1967's landmark "Guess Who's Coming to Dinner," which broached the then-taboo subject of interracial marriage. Tracy's health was so bad prior to shooting that insurance companies refused to cover him for the production. He died after the film wrapped and posthumously received his ninth Oscar nomination.

Adrienne Shelly - Waitress
When "Waitress" premiered at the Sundance Film Festival in 2007, the film was hailed as being a sweet, witty comedy about one of life's true pleasures: pie. Sadly, writer/director/actress Adrienne Shelly was not there. She was murdered months prior by Diego Pillco, a New York City construction worker. He was sentenced to 25 years in prison earlier this year.

Peter Finch - Network
Though he did die two months after "Network" opened, Peter Finch, who brilliantly played crazed newscaster Howard Beale, is the only person to win an acting Oscar posthumously.

Tupac Shakur - Gridlock'd
Rapper Tupac Shakur proved to be almost as posthumously prolific in movies as he was with music. After he was killed in a drive-by shooting in Vegas in 1996, Tupac appeared in both "Gridlock'd" and "Gang Related," both of which were released the following year.

Clark Gable - The Misfits
The day shooting for John Huston's 1960 movie "The Misfits" wrapped, Clark Gable was reported to have said, "Christ, I'm glad this picture's finished. [Co-star Marilyn Monroe] damn near gave me a heart attack." He keeled over from a heart attack the next day and died 11 days later. "The Misfits" also proved to be Monroe's final film as well.

To hear Samuel L. Jackson, Sharon Leal and director Malcolm D. Lee reminisce about their experience working with Bernie Mac on "Soul Men," watch the exclusive interview below.

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Monday, September 1, 2008

Drinking Dangers for College

From NIAAA Fact Sheet

Campus Problem Greater Than Most Parents Realize
As college students arrive on campus this fall, it's a time of new experiences, new friendships, and making memories that will last a lifetime. Unfortunately for many, it is also a time of excessive drinking and dealing with its aftermath —- vandalism, violence, sexual aggression, and even death.

According to research summarized in a College Task Force report to the National Institute on Alcohol Abuse and Alcoholism (NIAAA), the consequences of excessive drinking by college students are more significant, more destructive, and more costly than many parents realize. And these consequences affect students whether or not they drink.

Statistics from this report, which were updated recently, indicate that drinking by college students aged 18 to 24 contributes to an estimated 1,700 student deaths, 599,000 injuries, and 97,000 cases of sexual assault or date rape each year.

Early Weeks Are Critical

As the fall semester begins, parents can use this important time to help prepare their college-age sons and daughters by talking with them about the consequences of excessive drinking.

This rapid increase in heavy drinking over a relatively short period of time can contribute to serious diffi culties with the transition to college.

Anecdotal evidence suggests that the fi rst 6 weeks of the fi rst semester are critical to a first-year student's academic success.

Because many students initiate heavy drinking during these early days of college, the potential exists for excessive alcohol consumption to interfere with successful adaptation to campus life. The transition to college is often diffi cult and about one-third of fi rst-year students fail to enroll for their second year.

Parents Can Help

During these crucial early weeks, parents can do a variety of things to stay involved. They can inquire about campus alcohol policies, call their sons and daughters frequently, and ask about roommates and living arrangements.

They should also discuss the penalties for underage drinking as well as how alcohol use can lead to date rape, violence, and academic failure.

Resources Are Available

For parents who want to talk to their college-age sons and daughters about the consequences of college drinking, a variety of helpful resources are available from NIAAA.

A special guide for parents offers research-based information including the need to stay involved during freshman year and how to get assistance if faced with an alcohol-related crisis.

The Task Force's award-winning website features this guide along with links to alcohol policies at colleges across the country, an interactive diagram of the human body and how alcohol affects it, an interactive alcohol cost calculator, and the full text of all Task Force materials.

source: http://alcoholism.about.com/

Sunday, July 13, 2008

Busch beats Johnson to Chicago win

Kyle Busch beat reigning champion Jimmie Johnson in a spectacular green-white-chequered finish to score his seventh Sprint Cup victory of the season in the LifeLock.com 400 at Chicagoland Speedway.

he current points leader had started from pole position and battled at the front with Roush Fenway drivers Carl Edwards and Greg Biffle in the first part of the race. Come the second half of the 400-miler he was the dominant force, although he didn't seem to be the fastest over the long runs.

Following his last pitstop and with seventeen laps remaining, Johnson came out of turn four on the inside of Busch after a long battle in which he had done his best to keep his car on the bottom lane of the track, where Johnson's Chevrolet was working better that his Toyota.

Busch finally had to concede the lead to the Hendrick driver, who pulled away by two and even three tenths of a second a lap. That was until David Gilliland's Ford engine blew up, forcing the caution to come out with only four laps remaining.

That evaporated Johnson's lead, but at the same time allowed him to get some debris off from the grille of his car, as water temperatures started to raise worringly. But given Busch's speed on cold tyres on restarts, the reigning champion knew the race was anything but won for him.

On the green flag for the final two-lap sprint, Johnson spun his tyres too much when he got on the throttle, giving Busch a run on him. Probably thinking that he would be better off running on the bottom again, he forced Busch to go on the outside into turns one and two.

Busch was able to ride side-by-side with Johnson and then going into turns three and four the Californian got loose as 'Rowdy' drove by on the outside of him to take the lead and hold him off in the last lap, with Kevin Harvick finishing a close third in the best seat of the house to watch the spectacular finish.

"I really don't believe how good things are going," Busch said after winning his fourteenth NASCAR race of the season. "This has been a phenomenal year, just something so special. I don't know where this is coming from but they're blessing us all here at Joe Gibbs Racing this year.

"I good a good restart on Jimmie and was able to push him a little bit on that start, got him going and then had to go to the outside because I knew he was going to go to the bottom there through [turns] one and two and we were able to get by him there."

Johnson lamented losing a victory in that way and admitted he probably made a mistake on the last restart giving Busch the outside when he saw he was under attack.

"He got the outside of me there, you know and got a good run on me," Johnson said. "Deep down inside I knew better to give him the outside but he had a run coming on the inside on the restart and I just thought that was the best tonight, but I should know better I pass guys on the last lap on the outside.

"I should've given him the bottom and been a little smarter with that."

Harvick ran strong all race long and scored his first top-five for a while, capitalizing on his strong finish by moving up four spots in the drivers' standing to ninth place. Biffle finished fourth behind him and similarly moved up four places in the points to seventh.

Tony Stewart ran a strong race and led for a few laps but didn't have enough handling in the end to contend for victory, finishing in fifth place.

Carl Edwards looked a threat for victory when he overtook Busch in the early stages of the race but a damaged splitter right after his penultimate stop forced him to make an unscheduled pitstop under green. As a consequence he fell a lap down that he never got back, finishing 32nd.

His teammate Matt Kenseth also had to make an unscheduled stop earlier due to an apparent puncture, which also put him off the lead lap. However he managed to recover it to finish seventh behind Red Bull's Brian Vickers.

Canadian Patrick Carpentier was the highest-finishing rookie in 30th place despite an early clash with the wall at turn four.

"I think we learned a lot," the Canadian said. "We lost a lap early on and I touched the wall there and got behind and could never get it back. Could have got the lucky dog there at the end but the car was fast, it was fun to drive this weekend."

Following back-to-back wins, Kyle Busch has extended his lead in the championship and gets another 10-points bonus towards his Chase seeding. He currently enjoys a 50-point lead over Edwards and Kasey Kahne in the bonus that will come into play when the 'playoff' starts in September.

Pos Driver Make Laps
1. Kyle Busch Toyota 267
2. Jimmie Johnson Chevrolet 267
3. Kevin Harvick Chevrolet 267
4. Greg Biffle Ford 267
5. Tony Stewart Toyota 267
6. Brian Vickers Toyota 267
7. Matt Kenseth Ford 267
8. David Ragan Ford 267
9. Martin Truex Jr Chevrolet 267
10. Ryan Newman Dodge 267
11. Jeff Gordon Chevrolet 267
12. Elliott Sadler Dodge 267
13. A.J. Allmendinger Toyota 267
14. David Reutimann Toyota 267
15. Kasey Kahne Dodge 267
16. Dale Earnhardt Jr Chevrolet 267
17. Mark Martin Chevrolet 267
18. Juan Montoya Dodge 267
19. Jeff Burton Chevrolet 267
20. Scott Riggs Chevrolet 267
21. Jamie McMurray Ford 267
22. Clint Bowyer Chevrolet 267
23. Dave Blaney Toyota 267
24. J.J. Yeley Toyota 267
25. Robby Gordon Dodge 267
26. Paul Menard Chevrolet 267
27. Jason Leffler Chevrolet 267
28. Kurt Busch Dodge 267
29. Bobby Labonte Dodge 267
30. Patrick Carpentier Dodge 265
31. Reed Sorenson Dodge 265
32. Carl Edwards Ford 265
33. Casey Mears Chevrolet 265
34. Regan Smith Chevrolet 265
35. Bill Elliott Ford 265
36. Michael Waltrip Toyota 264
37. Sam Hornish Jr Dodge 263
38. Terry Labonte Dodge 263
39. Joe Nemechek Chevrolet 263
40. Denny Hamlin Toyota 262
41. Travis Kvapil Ford 260
42. David Gilliland Ford 259
43. Michael McDowell Toyota 258

Wednesday, September 5, 2007

Abraham Lincoln Personal Life

Abraham Lincoln was born on February 12, 1809, to Thomas Lincoln and Nancy Hanks Lincoln, two uneducated farmers. He was born in a one-room log cabin on the 348-acre (1.4 km²) Sinking Spring Farm, in Nolin Creek, three miles (5 km) south of Hodgenville, in southeast Hardin County, Kentucky (now part of LaRue County), an area which, at that time, was considered the "frontier." The name Abraham was chosen to commemorate his grandfather, who was killed in an American Indian raid in 1786. His elder sister, Sarah Lincoln, was born in 1807; a younger brother, Thomas Jr, died in infancy. It is sometimes debated whether Abraham Lincoln had Marfan syndrome, an autosomal dominant disorder of the connective tissue characterized by long limbs and great physical stature.

For some time, Thomas Lincoln was a respected and relatively affluent citizen of the Kentucky back country. He had purchased Sinking Spring Farm in December 1808 for $200 cash and assumption of a debt. The family belonged to a Baptist church that had seceded from a larger church over the issue of slavery. While exposed to his parents' anti-slavery sentiment from a very young age, Lincoln never joined their church, or any other, and as a youth he ridiculed religion.

Times turned, however, and Thomas Lincoln lost all his property in a series of court cases. In 1816, when Lincoln was just seven years old, the family was forced to make a new start in Perry County (now in Spencer County), Indiana. He later noted that this move was "partly on account of slavery," and partly because of economic difficulties in Kentucky. In 1818, Lincoln's mother, then thirty-four years old, died of milk sickness: Lincoln was only nine at the time. Soon afterwards, his father remarried to Sarah Bush Johnston. Sarah Lincoln raised young Lincoln like one of her own children. Years later she compared Lincoln to her own son, saying "Both were good boys, but I must say — both now being dead that Abe was the best boy I ever saw or ever expect to see." Lincoln was affectionate toward his step-mother, whom he would call "Mother" for the rest of his life, but he was distant from his father.

He married Mary Todd, and they had four boys, only one of whom lived to maturity. In 1858 Lincoln ran against Stephen A. Douglas for Senator. He lost the election, but in debating with Douglas he gained a national reputation that won him the Republican nomination for President in 1860.

Entering the presidential nomination process as a distinct underdog, Lincoln was eventually chosen as the Republican candidate for the 1860 election for several reasons. His expressed views on slavery were seen as more moderate than those of rivals William H. Seward and Salmon P. Chase. His "Western" origins also appealed to the newer states: other contenders, especially those with more governmental experience, had acquired enemies within the party and were weak in the critical western states, while Lincoln was perceived as a moderate who could win the West. Most Republicans agreed with Lincoln that the North was the aggrieved party as the Slave Power tightened its grasp on the national government. Yet despite his Southern connections (his in-laws owned slaves), Lincoln misunderstood the depth of the revolution underway in the South and the emergence of Southern nationalism. Throughout the 1850s he denied that there would ever be a civil war, and his supporters repeatedly rejected claims that his election would incite secession.

Throughout the election, Lincoln did not campaign or give speeches. This was handled by the state and county Republican organizations, who used the latest techniques to sustain party enthusiasm and thus obtain high turnout. There was little effort to convert non-Republicans, and there was virtually no campaigning in the South except for a few border cities such as St. Louis, Missouri, and Wheeling, Virginia; indeed, the party did not even run a slate in most of the South. In the North, there were thousands of Republican speakers, tons of campaign posters and leaflets, and thousands of newspaper editorials. These focused first on the party platform, and second on Lincoln's life story, making the most of his boyhood poverty, his pioneer background, his native genius, and his rise from obscurity. His nicknames, "Honest Abe" and "the Rail-Splitter," were exploited to the full. The goal was to emphasize the superior power of "free labor," whereby a common farm boy could work his way to the top by his own efforts.

On November 6, 1860, Lincoln was elected as the 16th President of the United States, beating Democrat Stephen A. Douglas, John C. Breckinridge of the Southern Democrats, and John Bell of the new Constitutional Union Party. He was the first Republican president, winning entirely on the strength of his support in the North: he was not even on the ballot in nine states in the South, and won only 2 of 996 counties in the other Southern states. Lincoln gained 1,865,908 votes (39.9% of the total), for 180 electoral votes; Douglas, 1,380,202 (29.5%) for 12 electoral votes; Breckenridge, 848,019 (18.1%) for 72 electoral votes; and Bell, 590,901 (12.5%) for 39 electoral votes. There were fusion tickets in some states, but even if his opponents had combined in every state, Lincoln had a majority vote in all but two of the states in which he won the electoral votes and would still have won the electoral college and the election.

As Lincoln's election became more likely, secessionists made it clear that their states would leave the Union. South Carolina took the lead, followed by six other cotton-growing states in the deep South. The upper South (Delaware, Maryland, Virginia, North Carolina, Tennessee, Kentucky, Missouri, and Arkansas) listened to and rejected the secessionist appeal. They decided to stay in the Union, though they warned Lincoln that they would not support an invasion through their territory. The seven Confederate states seceded before Lincoln took office, declaring themselves to be a new nation, the Confederate States of America. President Buchanan and President-elect Lincoln refused to recognize the Confederacy.

President-elect Lincoln evaded possible assassins in Baltimore, and on February 23, 1861, arrived in disguise in Washington, D.C. At his inauguration on March 4, 1861, the German American Turners formed Lincoln's bodyguard; and a sizable garrison of federal troops was also present, ready to protect the capital from Confederate invasion and local insurrection.

But also Civil war has Begining on 1860, and goverment could not solve that. Conflict over issues of how much control the federal government should have over the states, industrialization, trade, and especially slavery had increased tension between Northern and Southern states. After Abraham Lincoln was elected president in 1860, 11 Southern states seceded (or withdrew) from the Union and set up an independent government--the Confederate States of America. These events led to the outbreak of the Civil War--a brutal, bloody, four-year conflict that left the South defeated and ended slavery at the cost of more than half a million lives.

Lincoln believed in the Whig theory of the presidency, which left Congress to write the laws while he signed them, vetoing only those bills that threatened his war powers. Thus, he signed the Homestead Act in 1862, making millions of acres of government-held land in the West available for purchase at very low cost. The Morrill Land-Grant Colleges Act, also signed in 1862, provided government grants for agricultural universities in each state. The Pacific Railway Acts of 1862 and 1864 granted federal support for the construction of the United States' first transcontinental railroad, which was completed in 1869. Other important legislation involved economic matters, including the first income tax and higher tariffs. Also included was the creation of the system of national banks by the National Banking Acts of 1863, 1864, and 1865, which allowed the creation of a strong national financial system.

In 1862, Lincoln sent a senior general, John Pope, to put down the "Sioux Uprising" in Minnesota. Presented with 303 death warrants for convicted Santee Dakota who had massacred innocent farmers, Lincoln affirmed 39 of these for execution (one was later reprieved).

Lincoln won re-election in 1864, as Union military triumphs heralded an end to the war. In his planning for peace, the President was flexible and generous, encouraging Southerners to lay down their arms and join speedily in reunion.

After Union victories at Gettysburg, Vicksburg and Chattanooga in 1863, victory seemed at hand, and Lincoln promoted Ulysses S. Grant General-in-Chief (March 12, 1864). When the spring campaigns turned into bloody stalemates, Lincoln supported Grant's strategy of wearing down Lee's Confederate army at the cost of heavy Union casualties. With an election looming, he easily defeated efforts to deny his renomination, and selected Andrew Johnson, a War Democrat from the Southern state of Tennessee, as his running mate in order to form a broader coalition. They ran on the new Union Party ticket uniting Republicans and War Democrats.

The spirit that guided him was clearly that of his Second Inaugural Address, now inscribed on one wall of the Lincoln Memorial in Washington, D. C.: "With malice toward none; with charity for all; with firmness in the right, as God gives us to see the right, let us strive on to finish the work we are in; to bind up the nation's wounds.... "

On Good Friday, April 14, 1865, Lincoln was assassinated at Ford's Theatre in Washington by John Wilkes Booth, an actor, who somehow thought he was helping the South. The opposite was the result, for with Lincoln's death, the possibility of peace with magnanimity died.


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Saturday, September 1, 2007

Safety Tips for College Drinkers

Risk-Takers Face More Danger While Drinking

Researchers have found that college students who drink alcohol may get themselves into trouble not necessarily because of how much they drink, but more because of their risk-taking attitudes while they are drinking, which can be modified to reduce harmful consequences.

Professors at Kansas State University have found that males tend to be greater risk takers when it comes to alcohol, while women tend to use more protective strategies. They recommend the following steps to all college students who drink as a way to avoid dangerous drinking episodes:

  • Limit the number of drinks consumed
  • Use self-protective strategies
  • Limit money spent on alcohol
  • Drink with friends
  • Pour your own drinks
  • Develop low-risk attitudes
Steve Benton, professor of counseling and educational psychology, Ronald Downey, professor of psychology, and Sheryl Benton, assistant professor of counseling and educational psychology and assistant director of Counseling Services, studied college student drinking, attitudes of risk and drinking consequences.

"Students who tend to have attitudes that make them greater risk takers are more likely to get into trouble when drinking," Benton said. "Even when controlling the amount of alcohol, it's not how much you drink that affects the amount of trouble, but how risky you are."

Benton said in a news release that "if a person doesn't care what others think and doesn't worry about laws, then they're more likely to get into trouble. Those with a lower-risk attitude will get into less trouble."

Males Drink More

"We know that males tend to be heavier drinkers than females," Benton said. "The more you drink, the more you get into trouble. We found that the protective strategies are especially beneficial to male students, because they drink more than females, as well as to students who have six or more drinks."

"Student who drink more heavily also are more likely to experience harm from their drinking if they have high-risk attitudes. When they go to parties, they should be aware of their behavior and how much they're drinking," he said. Benton recommends "pacing" drinking over several hours.

Self-Protective Strategies

"Even students who have more than six drinks are less likely to experience harm if they practice self-protective strategies," Benton said.

The Kansas State group will next research the best ways to communicate about drinking issues to students. "If you begin to talk to an individual about risky behavior, you have to understand where they're coming from," Downey said. "Some individuals talk about risks, but some don't like to."

source: http://alcoholism.about.com
pic: http://www.fbi.gov

Saturday, April 21, 2007

Successful Sex -- Use It Well

Sex is for self-expression and for human bonding. You also want to develop your sexual technique. This article is not about that.

In today's world where so many now can express their sexuality without that much inhibition or moral censure by society, we have opened the gates to freedom of sexual expression.

Remember that it was not so long ago that children in families were told not to touch their genitals and were beaten if they were caught masturbating. The young women were also shamed if they got pregnant as teenagers.

This was an attack on living the existence of the body based on religions attacking the body to prove that they offered spiritual salvation and control for making people good to enter the afterlife.

These mentally unbalanced attitudes have been seen for what they are in modern times: anti-body, anti-existence on earth, anti-passion and anti-feeling, and anti-self-decision making.

In today's world young people should be able to make decisions themselves as to how they express themselves in a body.

Sex is self-expression and its is bonding between two human beings. These are its two primary functions. A third would be baby-making, but now only for a few in modern cultures. Sexual expression as a need has gone far beyond baby-making in modern societies.

Why do most of us have such an enormous interest in sex, stated or unstated?

THE PSYCHOLOGY BEHIND SEXUAL INTEREST

  • sexual orgasm, especially shared sexual orgasm, often gives one a sense of tremendous vitality and passion and opens the door to shared feelings between two human being.
  • sexual intercourse together is often taken as the true marriage contract. It is assumed that once a couple starts mating together they are then to remain a couple together, sharing their lives
  • however, in today's modern society, to get to experience someone as a possible intimacy partner it is considered important to go to bed together and do some heavy sexual sporting. Thus many use the sexual compatibility and mutual passion as a measure of their being compatible in other ways of sharing life together
  • we feel in love with someone who may feel in love with us. This is usually interpreted as that we are meant for each other. Love, undefined but felt, is taken as some sort of destiny bonding. Thus most of us are waiting and hoping for the big love to come our way so that we can settle down with the right partner for us
  • Jungian psychologists have found that falling in love is a big projection of our inner need for unity. We identify usually with the archetype of the genitals we carry and project the opposite archetype onto another person with opposite genitals. Masculine and Feminine. This is all as nature intended. Without sex as the motivator how many would choose to live together in such close proximity as to evoke all the human emotions?
The above points go beyond genital and body fascination. Of course we worship our young years when we had full vitality because we know our vitality is not lasting. We age and we die. Nature wants the next generation produced, and that is done with mutual, sexual orgasm.

STAGES OF SEXUAL RELATING AND EXPRESSION

Since sex is such a powerful force in our lives we would do well to make such a force conscious in our lives.

  • starting out we experience auto-eroticism. We feel good in our bodies, especially with human contact, thus explaining why little children often love the hugging contact with the parents and family members.
  • we progress from auto-eroticism into co-eroticism. We share sexual intensity and bodily contact with others, whether as football players jumping onto each other in a pile after winning a game or with pairs of humans of either and both sexes mating with each other in genital contact. Co-eroticism gets us relating closely with other human beings.
  • we develop in co-eroticism relational skills, how to interest someone in being mutual with us, how to release ourselves more and more freely in the sexual embrace, how to share intimacies and other areas of life-expression together.
  • we develop non-eroticism. Half the adults in modern society do not live with anyone. They have either regressed to auto-eroticism, having been possibly traumatized in co-eroticism experiences, or they have become non-erotic.
  • non-erotic adults put their creative energies towards achieving goals, projects, achievements. Some also go non-erotic by having dogs as pets, the faithful positive feeling function.
What all this is saying is that sexual expression should be used consciously and well. If you can agree with the above points you can then be more aware in how you make your sexual choices in life.

ONE EXAMPLE OF MISUSE OF SEXUALITY

One young man who worked with me would always ask a new woman he met all about her father. He said from this he could tell whether he could seduce her or not.

This was a man who was auto-erotic in co-erotic situations. He did not give and receive in mutual sharing with another human being. He was strictly a predator. He did not like my challenging him on this.

Yes, misuse of sexuality, his own and the other person's.

It's not, don't do things. In an age of self-responsibility and free expression you and I may have done a lot of exploring to see what the world is all about and also ourselves in a body. Yet at some point we need to move beyond unconscious exploration into realistic awareness and take full responsibility for how our self-expression affects others and ourselves.

SEXUAL RELATING GUIDELINES

  • if you are sharing sex with someone be honest about your motives and your experiences, and encourage the other person to be so likewise.
  • don't hang onto the sexual experience as the goal of your relating with someone.
  • there is only one great goal in intimate relating and that is to share lives together with the right person that this is possible to do so with.
  • therefore in your sexual expression you will need to redefine yourself as seeking a full intimacy with someone you respect, admire and dance well together with, metaphorically and actually.
  • it is not easy to find a full intimacy person for you, so you need to have a committed focus to do so, even if it takes a few years. If you have sex with a number of people as part of your exploration, be honest about your experience and keep looking for that realistic relationship in which you can both fully share the essentials together.
  • sex will not get you there to the full relationship, but it certainly is part of the process because of the emotions and vulnerability evoked.
  • thus holding off on sexual intimacy before marriage is not usually an effective method for finding the right person for you, and you for them. You need physical and emotional experience together and not just a talk relationship.
The other clear point that marriage counselors have found is that you two need to be able to communicate in harmony at several levels. They are as follows. You can use this list to evaluate your own mating behavior and what you are going for in life. You can use this list to see if you are using your sexuality well.

-communicate openly and honestly. If you are strangers to each other because one or both of you are hiding your true feelings and instead playing roles, then you should not be together. It's too defensive a situation to allow for fulfillment of expression and to allow love to flourish.

-carry the dance of your interactions into the basic areas of relating. It's the same as sex in bed to also cook meals together in the kitchen.

-have at least five areas of mutual sharing and compatibility. These can include:

BASICS OF SEXUAL AND RELATING COMPATIBILITY

  • relatively the same level of intelligence
  • the same level of fitness and working at fitness
  • the same level and way of communication
  • no blaming, manipulating and demanding with the other person
  • ability to relax together without being a pressure on the other person
  • ability to handle together the relationship as also an economic unit of mutual sharing of income and expenses according to each his and her ability
  • the sharing of vulnerability, mistakes, wounds, fears, traumas from the past
  • the ability to work through interaction difficulties, including such things as affairs or freedom to be alone, whatever it is that may weaken the relationship you both have chosen
  • doing chores and other work together so that both of you carry the load pretty equally of work needed to live life together and progress into the future
In a nutshell! Use your sexual attractiveness and expression to form an ongoing intimate relationship, preferably living together, that has all of the above points working for you both.

We add also that if you are partnered with somebody and you do not have the relating experiences as indicated above, then why are you both still together? Split up and use your attractiveness and relationship commitment to explore and then find someone else to be with that will allow more fully the above values.

source: http://ezinearticles.com/

Wednesday, April 18, 2007

Penis Size, Sex and women


Virtually every man forgets that it doesn't matter how long or how short your penis is, because the vagina will accommodate itself to any length.

  • The vagina of a woman who hasn't had a child is only 7.5cm (3 inches) long when she's not sexually excited. The figures for women who have had babies are only slightly different.

  • Even when aroused, a woman's vagina usually extends only to a length of about 10cm (4 inches).

This means any man's penis will fill her vagina completely, unless you happen to be one of those rare guys with an erect penile length of less than four inches.

You're probably now wondering how the average man with an erection of six inches manages to insert his penis into the vagina at all.

The vagina has the most remarkable capacity for lengthening if something is introduced into it gradually.

So the exceptional man whose erect penis is eight inches long can still make love to any woman, providing he excites her properly and introduces his organ very slowly. If he does this, her vagina will lengthen by 150 or 200 per cent to accommodate him.

source: http://www.netdoctor.co.uk/

Plan a Sex Date for Holiday Sanity

Holiday planning is usually about everyone but ourselves. We buy presents for everyone else, we plan special meals, we rearrange work and other social events, and we usually cut way back on time for ourselves to make room for the onslaught of others.

This holiday sex tip is part self-loving and part survival tip. One of the reasons many of us lose it over the holidays is a lack of balance. We don’t just cut out some of our “me” time, we take no time for ourselves, or our romantic partners, at all.

This week make plans for at least one illicit rendezvous with your partner (or yourself) during the holidays. If you have a lot of family obligations that’s no excuse. You can always find five minutes to hide in a bathroom, closet, or the car.

Your plan should be very detailed, leave nothing to chance:

  • Pick a specific date and a specific time
  • Think about how long you’ll have for your date.
    Make it reasonable, keep it short
  • Choose a location that you know will be available
  • Decide what you want to do
  • Consider any props: outfits, safer sex gear, sex toys, and put them away somewhere you can easily get them on the specified day.

If you’re making a plan for you and a partner, you may or may not want to let them in on the plan. If you don’t, you run the risk of them “not being in the mood” and being distracted by holiday stress. If you do let them in you ruin a perfectly good sex surprise.

You might want to plan a phone sex date just before leaving work on the 24th. You might want to plan a late night romp after the presents are wrapped but before the kids wake up on the 25th. It might be a date with yourself sometime in the middle of a long day surrounded by extended family.

Whatever you choose, consider this a complete mental health holiday, and even if it’s only ten minutes, appreciate at least ten minutes of emotional, physical, and spiritual rejuvenation.

Have fun!

source: http://sexuality.about.com/

The Art of Touching Woman

Sex is not only about penetration but it is all about enjoying each others body, the power of touch and the art of satisfying your partner. Before heading for the last action you should know how to touch and feel your woman. If you learn the art of touching your woman in ways no man has ever touched her before, your chances of getting more sex will increase tenfold.

Spine
When it comes to massaging her spine don’t use your hands. Here you have to use your lips and tongue to make the massage fun and exciting. To drive her crazy, let your tongue graze over the little hairs on her back. Or, you can always use your fingers to tickle your way up to her neck.

Behind the neck
Some women simple love their men to kiss them on the back of their neck. It is a favourite arousal soft spot and you should know how to go about it. Gently move her hair away from her neck (if applicable) and breathe on her neck, letting your lips graze against it before you kiss and then lightly bite into it. This will drive your woman crazy and she will beg for more.

Scalp
And while you're kissing your girl, put your hands on the back of her head and massage her scalp for a minute. As well, feel free to give her hair a little tug from the roots; it will heighten her senses.

Shoulders
You must be wondering why the shoulders but believe it or faint, women just love it when you kiss their shoulders. Gently massage her shoulders with your hands while you are kissing her and then slowly kiss, rub and bite her shoulders.

Breasts (not nipples)
Don’t head straight for the nipples coz fun is when you spend some time kissing and caressing the surrounding area -- the breast. Lick and bite near the nipples without actually touching them and see the effect of it on her.

Ankles
You had never thought of this one before but trust me some women love having their feet kissed and touched. But rather than her feet, opt to kiss and caress her ankles instead. Be careful; don't bite the area because it can hurt her.

Tuesday, April 17, 2007

Wake up Your Lazy Sex Life

If your approach to sex is more Hokey Cokey than Kama Sutra, it could be time for a rumpo rethink. Forget fear or the fumbling of a novice: the worst passion killer in the world is indifference.

GOING SOLO

New research from John Hopkins University, USA, shows if you want better moves and orgasms in bed, the best person to practise on is yourself.

Masturbation and sexual fantasies help sustain your desire to have sex so put aside the blushes and experiment.

Vary the ways you touch yourself and where you do it - don't get stuck in a solo sexual rut where only one specific thing will bring you to orgasm.

Not only will you learn what turns you on most, you'll be able to point your partner in the right direction too.

POSITION PARANOIA

Contrary to some sexperts' advice, you don't have to wrap your legs around your head to have a good time in bed.

Most of us work around five key positions we like because a) they work and b) we can do them.

Fair enough - but you might like to know that you can vary most positions with just a small movement and turn something ordinary into a whole new sexual experience.

For example, if you're a missionary fan, lie on your back as usual but keep your legs closer together and straight as your man penetrates you. This will give you major clitoral stimulation.

If the doggie position is more your style try these simple variations:

  • Lower yourself down onto your elbows, this will change the depth of penetration.
  • Kneel against the side of the bed, resting your torso on the bed so you don't have to support your weight and can relax more.
  • Lean over the bed supporting your weight on folded arms with your head on a pillow. Your fella should then come up to you in a standing position and lift your legs up to his waist and enter you from behind.

THE BIG O

The good news for all lazy girls is that trying harder won't actually help you achieve orgasm.

If you're anxious, tense or pushing too hard, your orgasm will move further out of reach.

There are moves you can work on to give yourself a head start though. Take the CAT or Coital Alignment Technique, for example.

Your man gets on top of you and lines up his pelvis over yours. This means he lies higher up your body than usual, resting on elbows, so that when he enters you he's riding high and will press your pubic bone and clitoris as he thrusts.

You then push up with your pelvis as he pushes down. If you press against each other as you do it and keep your pace steady, an orgasm will be yours for the taking not faking.

MORNING HAS BROKEN

The morning after the night before is a minefield of potential disasters.

Guarantee you'll see each other again by:

  • Having a sense of humour about the night before.
  • Telling him you had a great time.
  • Giving him a time frame for another date.
  • Being nice (even if you're Miss Grumpy in the mornings).
  • Not freaking out about the fact you had sex.

KINKY ROOTS

While you may not be interested in whipping your bloke into a sexual frenzy or dressing up as a French maid, you're probably more than a little curious about kinky sex and what it can do for your sex life.

While it's definitely not for everyone, adding a kinky twist is the fastest way to add a bit of zing to your sexual encounters.

Try one (or all!) of the following ways to get kinky without trying too hard:

  • Access his best fantasy and act it out for him.
  • Drop some naked pictures of yourself into his lap.
  • Write him a filthy love letter and leave it in his diary or bag.
  • Buy some handcuffs and leave them hanging from the bed.
  • Go on a sex-starvation diet where all you can do is talk about it all week.
source: Book "Lazy Girl's Guide to Good Sex", Author Anita Naik