Deciding to Have Sex??

If you are thinking about having sex for the first time or you already are sexually active, you probably want to know about preventing an unplanned pregnancy. This handout discusses birth control methods most commonly used by teenagers. Although most methods depend on the girl to do or take something, it is important for guys to understand what is involved so that they can support their girlfriends. Also, don't forget that it is only the condom that can prevent sexually transmitted diseases (STDs).

No method of birth control is 100% effective. Unless you decide to practice abstinence and not have sexual intercourse, you are always taking some risk of pregnancy. However, if you are correctly using one of the birth control methods described, the risk can be quite small.

Many sexual activities are almost always safe without having to take any special precautions. These include holding hands, hugging, touching, and kissing. Still, some teens decide to also have sexual intercourse. Having sex can be a very loving and special experience between two people. However, you should think about several important issues before you decide to have sex. Not only might sex give you a sexually transmitted disease or cause pregnancy, but you also can get hurt emotionally because of the strong feelings involved.

Decide ahead of time what is right for you. Find an adult with whom you can discuss your feelings and opinions, and ask questions. Although it is sometimes awkward to start the conversation, you can discuss these things with your parents. Other adults from whom you might be able to get valuable information or insights include pastors or rabbis at your church or synagogue, school counselors, teachers, or adult relatives. Also your doctor's office can help you. You can usually discuss issues with these adults confidentially.

Call your health care provider's office if:

• Your period is more than a week late.
• You have questions about sex.
• You know the condom broke, or you didn't use one, and no other method of birth control is being used.
• You think you might need emergency contraception (the "morning-after" pill).